Man, it has been a strange couple of weeks. I have not posted on my sitch in a while, because it seems to be going all over the place.
W is going from friendly to cold several times a week.
I have been a good boy, detached, GALed, not discussed our R or OM in several weeks, poss several months even. I have looked after myself health wise, and pretty much gotten myself back emotionally to when we first met (confidence wise etc).
W is really friendly, and is speaking to me in softer tones, and will not instigate any arguments (regardless of the incident, eg can't pick up DD due to my work, having to travel at short notice etc etc). Mind U, I have not slackened off in regards to the upbringing of DD, and have bent over backwards to make things easier for W, but she has been more tolerant of my work commitments than before.
W is struggling financially since we split all the living costs and bills. I have helped her by paying for certain things that she cannot afford, and paying for everything in regards to DD etc. Payed a huge amount for DD's catered birthday party this Sunday (28 kids at $40 a pop). Booked out the local "Wave" pool, for a pool party (huge pool with mechanical waves, just like a surf beach).
I find that although she is really friendly, she has trouble looking at me when we do converse, often looking down, doing something during conversation. I was going to a work function (black tie) yesterday, and DD kept going on how good I looked, W could not look at me.
She has gone back to staying away from the house (after work or weekends, even when she is looking after DD), eventhough there is no threat for her, as I am usually doing my own thing, or out GALing. She has the space and privacy to relax at home whenever she want's, with no hassle from me, but prefers to keep her candle lit at both ends, and keeps busy visiting. It appears that she needs to be with her friends (or OM), or have company (other than DD) to make herself feel better, I don't know.
Anyway, sorry for the ramblings, It is just a little confusing for me. I will continue with my approach, as I think W may be having some sort of emotional struggle, possibly????
