The funny/wierd (and perhaps good) thing about all of this, is I will admit we had drifted apart a bit (does not justify A), but all of this coming up, has really made me realize I DO love my W, possibly more than I realized before - I just want us both to be at that same level.
YES!!
About the demands, I think they are totally reasonable. I guess if you make the demands, you need to figure out how they are being met. Meaning if you want her to tell you when OM contact happens, then say something like "I will not look/snoop, but I expect you to be honest and tell me about any encounters". This way, you are giving her privacy back. I really don't know how else you could go about it, without snooping.
