Hi,
I read your post earlier today and thought, hmmm, wonder what I would do since our sitches are similar. After thinking on it all afternoon, I would not go totally dark either. Semi-dark may be good. I know in my sitch my H would be contacting OW so, right or wrong, or regardless of the reasons, I would not want to go totally dark. Definitely ease up on the contact and let him call you.

Go for it!