Originally Posted By: Agent99

If it was as simple as, "I wish you would exercise more" I bet he would say that.


Do you know just how many people who have troubled marriages, say things like that?

Do you know just how many people, who go to joint therapy, find out how completely wrong they are about assumptions like that? \:\)

No, things arent simple.
But please trust me, that even if it is "only" a major factor, rather than "the" factor.. he still wouldnt say it to you. Two reasons:

1. "he doesnt want to hurt your feelings" (sounds silly given the situation, but true).

2. He doesnt think you are capable of change. You have failed repeatedly in this area. He's given up on you ever changing. So, if telling you will hurt your feelings, and you arent "capable" of doing anything about it [in his eyes], then why would he possibly tell you?


Last edited by Dom R; 10/25/07 10:00 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle