He's on Match.com

[Trixi]

- You know this is really important to him!! #1 item he was looking for! Do you disagree?

I don't disagree, but I don't know that *this* is really what it is. He is a fairly insightful person-- and he has repeatedly said that he doesn't know what exactly is missing, but he wishes he did know so that I could address it. (And he maintained the same stance with the counselor too. "99 is a great woman. I love her a lot. Just "something" is missing and I don't know what it is.")

If it was as simple as, "I wish you would exercise more" I bet he would say that.

Oh, and last night we went to dinner where he AGAIN pointed out that if he was just looking for sex with someone younger, he has had plenty of opportunities to do that. That he is NOT looking for that. My paraphrase: if it was just about a trimmer/tighter body; he'd already been doing that.

I wanted to say something like "okay-so we have established you aren't "dating" to get laid. That would mean you are "dating" to find someone better than me for a serious relationship--all while you still are quasi-with me. Nice."

Okay- to not try to evade your question-- Saturday was taken up showing homes; since Sunday, any flippin' spare time has been trying to get my DD a used car. I am exhausted dealing with used car salespeople, just got done trying to convince a private owner to let us take it to a mechanic to be checked out and he refused. (I thought we were near the end of the tunnel and he had to go and be an jerk.) OMG, I HATE buying a car!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Last night we (just he and I) went to look at the private owner's car. On the way there he was being a turd and I called him out on it; so he started flirting. Then we went to dinner- he LOVES how I eat. When I eat good food, I (guess) I sound like when we are goofing around. About half-way thru dinner he said "You make me so horny." I ended up "kidnapping" him (with his approval) and we had a nice night and this morning I took him back to his car.

Hopefully he noticed that the bike was no longer on the wall.

There is one other component to this whole thing that I have been working on that will be a good segue for the exercise issue, and once that is complete, that will open up another door of conversation.

One more interesting thing from last night- he said "I don't know what I am doing wrong. I can't seem to really connect with people." This was good, because before I was sort of being blamed for it. I gave him advice on what to do (probably shouldn't have--probably should have let him experience a little more of it). Anyway, I was glad he shared with me.

He gave me some really nice kisses goodbye this morning when I dropped him off. And we have been spending a lot of time on the phone (and now IM'ing) about this car sitch. It's been quite pleasant.