CVA - Not sure I have figured anything out?

[Not Much Left]

Hey everyone, thanks for giving it to me straight! Nomo, be nice now, bubba, pal, ....

Sitting here as I read these thoughts thinking "what a wussy (insert first letter) I am, afraid to have this discussion, yes I said afraid, big ole 6'+ 180 lb CVA afraid of little ole 5'3" 100 lb diva cuz she at the end of the day wields all the power with our kids. Not that I think it would ever get bitter, but she could and I am sure have all sorts of people say on her behalf, I am crazy, yell a lot, blah, blah blah and I might never see my kids again. That is my fear. Man I suck.
Nomo.......no self pity here, thinking out loud.

OkOkOk, let go, zen daddy, have the discussion or send the email CVA! Self talk is great eh?

Literally sitting here trying to get over all this and you all say "oh yeah, CVA she's going to freak, for sure...." Now there's a way to boost my confidence! That is so funny... LOL

C

[Not Much Left]

CVA's final post for a while anyway.

This is it. I am too emotionally immature to deal with all this. 44 yrs old and I have no idea what to say to someone who subtly displays anger toward me and clearly never wanted to be with me.

Now there are 4 beautiful human beings whose lives will forever be ruined.

I come home and her mom's car is in my spot in my effing garage. Get your sh#t out of my garage until it is no longer mine. This sounds so petty but trust me, this is a "subtle" way of her saying, "well, he is not living her so go ahead mom". Again, F u.

No ring last two day all of a sudden, yesterday saying "oh, I realized I put the wrong ring on..." Are Fing kidding me.

Again, immature I know. All the advice I have given is BS. I have no clue about my W or women in general, maybe even just human nature.

Thanks for all investing your valuable, precious time in my sitch. Don't waste your time anymore, I am not.

CVA, over and out

[Nomopo]

CVA - many things to post about your posts in the last 36 hours or so, but I have no time to do it right now.

Briefly:

Now there are 4 beautiful human beings whose lives will forever be ruined.

You're mindset is making things worse. Get back to even keel my friend. Re-read this and realize how you are not managing your emotions. It is keeping you from thinking clearly and rationally. Your kids' lives are FAR FAR FAR from ruined. You know that.

trust me, this is a "subtle" way of her saying, "well, he is not living her so go ahead mom". Again, F u.

Your NMA (attitude) is working against you lately big time. It is likely you will look back down the road and regret it. Get it together. You're hurting your sitch and your chances with your frame of mind. Step back. 48-hour rule. Recognize what you are doing.

No ring last two day all of a sudden, yesterday saying "oh, I realized I put the wrong ring on..." Are Fing kidding me.

You take EVERYTHING she does in the worst possible way. That was one of my complaints about my W. Your giving yourself false problems, false dread, false negative emotions. Stop it. You're working against yourself.

Again, immature I know. All the advice I have given is BS. I have no clue about my W or women in general, maybe even just human nature.

If you admittedly have no clue, then quit ascribing the worst possible motives to everything your W does.


Nomo (<---- at CVA)

[SunnySeason]

Hey CVA,

Am I going to have to go to Texas & slap the spit out of you??

None of us has a clue at one time or another, that's what we're doing here, tuning up our skills.

You know, & I know that you aren't a waste of time.

Feelings=temporary

Breathe Zen Daddy

Onward & Upward,

Sunny

[Heimlich]

Oh, come on, CVA. Have a bit of a pity party and a break, then come on back. Plus, seriously, who among us has a clue about women?

BD

[Puddle]

Hey CVA,

Ditto ditto ditto. You're not wasting your time writing here.

Watch out, Sunny's coming for you!

I hope you come back soon, whenever you're ready.

Take care, CVA.

[Gone Dancin']

Plus, seriously, who among us has a clue about women?

Speak for yourself, Heim -- I know women! They love to cook, clean, give birth, shave their man's back, change diapers, be the DD for their man whenever he needs her, make snacks for her man and his buddies when they're hungry, do yard work, listen to their man's high school sport's stories, etc.

With what I know, why wouldn't my W want to come back?! Crazy woman!

Take a break and keep your eye on the prize, CVA -- you're going to be fine if you give yourself the opportunity. Stay strong, brotha! Besides, we're gonna paint the town together during the DB winter event. The Idaho women will be drooling all over you -- but don't worry, I'll beat them off of you with my ski poles!

GD

[waw1978]

Plus, seriously, who among us has a clue about women?

Speak for yourself, Heim -- I know women! They love to cook, clean, give birth, shave their man's back, change diapers, be the DD for their man whenever he needs her, make snacks for her man and his buddies when they're hungry, do yard work, listen to their man's high school sport's stories, etc.

GD

You are joking right? Please tell me you are joking?! This could be why you are here!

Hope I get to meet you all at the winter event. Thats one thing I do love, SKIING and of course, drinking too many adult beverages...seems to be a popular DB site hobby.

CVA

Hang in there pal. Seems like we are all hitting rough times right now. Talk to you when you feel like getting back on the DB horse so to speak.

[Gone Dancin']

You are joking right? Please tell me you are joking?! This could be why you are here!

What do you mean, waw? Aren't I right?

OF COURSE I'M JOKING! Just trying to lighten the spirits. I'm so disappointed that you couldn't tell and don't know me better than that!

Uh oh -- just realized that maybe you were joking there too. Please tell me you're joking!

GD

[Heimlich]

I hope you're not joking, GD. I'm making plans to move to Idaho.
BD