Mark,

You are doing fine.

The only way for you to divorce bust now is to let go and move on.

And the kids? They would be better off if your marriage was healthy and intact.

Your wife, at the moment, doesn't want that. She may change her mind, she may not.

She's the one ending the marriage, not you.

If you are OK, and flourish and keep your moral compass intact, your kids will be OK. If you fall apart, it'll hurt them more.

--Theoden