Still trying to win WAW back (#2)

[DaveJ]

Well let's see. Had a fight with the W last night. I show up and my S start having meltdown and not wanting the W to leave for her T session. My daughter start crying as well for whatever reason. Every time I tried to give S a hug he screams he wants mommy and wants nothing to do with me. I get overwhelmed, don't know what to do. W says things like "nothing has changed, it's still the same, I'm not doing anything" Granted she's having her period and she's cranky and she's late for her appt. Like there is a thing I could do. Made me angry, said I'm so tired of her blaming everything on me and always making it my fault. She gets angrier, starts threatening lawyers and etc. I get mad and say some things I shouldn't have blaming her for the whole situation. It ended up with her flipping me off and drive off to see the therapist.

Surprisingly I got the kids calmed down and we had a nice night hanging out. No problems at all. I even gave my son a haircut and a bath without too much trouble. Talked to him a little bit about his meltdowns.

So when W finally came back she calmed down, and we talked. She finally admits after taking to the T that she has an anger problem. Her temper just flares so fast. And that just triggers me every time and I panic. The odd thing is before I panic because I'm afraid I would lose her, now....I just panic. I just don't like people being upset with me. She said she'll do everything she can to not overreact because it's not good for the kids. I said I'll work on not panic and then get emotional and loud.

Of course her conclusion is that since the kids behave ok when we are by ourselves that we should just see the kids individually and not do things as a family. WTF??? You've got to be kidding me right? The kids need stability and family time now more than ever with what they are going through. I told her that this co-parenting will be harder than anything she'll ever imagine, and that if we don't stick together and help each other with the kids we are doomed. It was hard as it is when we were together, and she thinks it's going to be easier when we aren't is way beyond me....