I was absolutely gutted and betrayed by what my H said he felt for OW and had planned with her. OW thought she was going to move into my home and replace me. She abandoned her own H and HER CHILDREN thinking she would get my H. He is the Chief Exec - kerching - she though she had hit the jackpot. Even after he decided he was going to stay with me he seemed to put her feelings first when it came to the break up. I was the lucky one because he was staying with me so she needed gentle handling - barf
My H gave me all the emails etc that went between them so I was able to see exactly what they had been planning / dreaming about. We had / have 100% transparency about these things now. He knows I come on here but he has never asked me my log on or tried to get on here.
You'd think they would put their effort into the one they have decided to stay with wouldn't you? I was obviously wrong to expect that
However, he has now said that he NEVER loved her. (It took a year for him to come out with that unprompted). He says that he realised that within a few days of deciding to stay with me - which begs the question why the fcuk did it take so long to tell me. But they don't realise that we feel so rejected - they are so high on the feeling of being wanted - the power trip of being able to make a choice. Oh, yeah, it hurts them, but my H definately got off on it too.
I know your pain limbo but I am telling you it does dull in time and you can get to feeling number one again. I have yet to put all of the resentment / hurt behind me as you can tell from this post - maybe I shall never get rid of all of it - but it does lessen with time.
(((((HUGS))))) saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
