Army. 26 years. I think you were here last yer, no? I'm just about in the same place as you. Any kids? I have three which kills me. We both have to brace for the wall of cold water. If you act "as if" it's coming, it becomes a lot easier...until it really does, I guess. It's more the family than my W. at this point. I'm furious for what she's doing to our family.
I guess you try to be the best human being you can to your W. and always take the high road, even though the altitude can kill you. Continue to be a friend, sporadically, not as a stalker, as most of us first were when the bomb was dropped. I still make mistakes sometimes. Being a needy lap dog is unattractive. Work on you as best you can. That's all we have. Prep for the worst, hope for the best. That's really all we can hold on to, and were better acting as if it's going to happen.
