I really appreciate your insight. U a marine? I was a sailor in the Gator Navy back in the day (92 - 95). My fear is lessening each day, but sometimes I have relapses, but those are less frequent. I want my W back but I have realized that I do not need her. That in and of itself is huge for me. I made the choice to not let this totally devestate me like it had done when we separated the first time. I definitely believe W is not resolute in her proclamation that she wanted to end the marriage. I just have to decide what or what not to do in order for her to abandon any ideas of D. I am going to lay off the txt'ing for awhile. I am beginning to think that it is starting to get stale. The problem there is I want to wish her well on starting her new job on monday (DB coach Laurie encourages this) but I also want to go dark for awhile. Perhaps a brief txt msg will do. As always I appreciate anyone who takes the time to post a comment. Thanks once again FLTC.