So you are not going to be separated for that long. How do you think she will take that information? You need to do what is best for you right now and if not taking that job is what you felt was the best for you then do not let her make you think/feel differently.
So this weekend is Retro for you right? Maybe you could mention it to someone there privately and ask them when they think it would be a good time to tell you W about it. They might have some suggestions since they know the program etc. Maybe you could even call now in advance and talk to someone about it. Worth a try really.
Money issues are tough. I would not mention this until after Retro. See how that goes first and then maybe be balancing the check book or something and let her know it is off. I have a similar issue with my H. It is the camper payment. They still took it out of the house account last month and he was suppose to just pay it himself. I told him about it and he said that he would take care of it but he has not yet. I mentioned it again the other night and he got all pissy with me so now I think I am just going to let it go and be out the $200 since I do not want to deal with it anymore.
