There and Back, #10

[Dom R]

the last few months, after finding db, I really backed off, to the point that the last couple of months I haven't even been asking how he is. I've been dark grey (as black as I can go with the kids), just nothing from me about him, and bare answers from me when he asked questions about me. all conversation was about the kids, with some basic business stuff thrown in from time to time.

I wonder now if that just reinforced in him the idea that I didn't care/didn't respect him?

yes. it did.

he knows I love him...he knows i care. when he had his breakdown last month I said as much and he told me he knew.

there's a difference between mentally knowing it, and feeling it.
it sounds like sometimes, he doesnt/didnt feel it. Which contributed to an affair.

Ironically, i thought this was usually the female's justification for having an affair. "ha ha"?

sorry


The thing is... you are showing him now, by asking about him sometimes, etc.
Sounds like that's a good thing, to me.