My Wife wants out..still!!

[Pudmuddle]

Hey Mark,

I am in a similar sitch as my husband keeps asking about us going to a mediator every 2 or 3 days. I told him last night, in a very calm DB way, "I do not see that as a solution to our problems. Every marriage goes through this phase and here we are now". I didn't say anymore about him getting counseling or the things we have done wrong in our marriage. He was very quiet for a LONG time, and then said "K" and got up and left. I think it gave hime more to think about because I didn't beg and cry for him stop this and take me back. I realize you have kids involved and that is difficult to not talk to her, but maybe back off even more and try not to react to what she says. My H is still under the same roof and we have a 10 yr old, so that is hard to deal with daily seeing him.

I haven't heard how this affected him yet, and am just patiently waiting for him to come talk again and am learning to always be prepared "as if" the situation were really good between us and he just needs to chat. That keeps me from coming at him like a loaded down MAC truck. I also tend to think of my H as "going through a phase" like your children would and that makes me connect at a different level with him. Just looking at him as a friend who needs help, while not being condescending.

I hope this helps somewhat. We are here for you.