Lets try thing again!!!!

[Pudmuddle]

Hi HB,

I had to comment that I loved your advice to limbo about what a soulmate is...that was most aptly put and very wise! I am in the same sitch where my H thinks he is "in-love" with OW. Boy is he in for a surprise when they try to get deeper than just the romps in the hay. All relationships will run into snags and eventually she will start making demands on him that he won't like.

I am going to print this out, what you said and carry it with me!

"I just about tossed my cookies upon hearing this and was so enraged that I clearly said to my H that in NO uncertain circumstances that "real soul mates" just do not happen they are not "out there" waiting to hook up. I feel soul mates are made from that commitment to each other, from having children together or building a home together, surviving job losses and successes TOGETHER, from surviving health issue together and/or family losses together. You cannot be true soul mates unless you are together and a romp in the hay a few times over a period of 6 -12 mos hardly constitutes a real relationship. They are in a bubble, fantasy la la land where they do not deal with reality so how could they really even consider themselves soul mates."

I did discover to after my EA with someone, before he had the PA, on my own I realized that I was searching for something I needed from him...and that I still wanted that. So those people meant less and less to me the more I realized that. I know this is Limbo's post, but I just wanted to share this and hopefully it will help her too.

You all on this website are awesome people. {{HUGS TO ALL}}