He's on Match.com

[Dom R]

When he "came back" and said that *we* should date, was AFTER we had NOT seen each other. And now that we have been seeing each other fairly consistently, as time has marched on, the frequency and dare I say "enjoyment" has been diminishing; to the point that he is again announcing his intentions to date and that he sees divorce in our future (more so than in the past.)

sorry to hear that.

He is totally crystal clear that he wants to date others. That he MUST date others, really.

you might think about WHY that is.

I'm guessing it is "because he doesnt yet see in you, what he is looking for". aka "he doesnt want to 'settle' any more: you havent shown that you've changed enough, to meet his emotional needs."

Yeah, it might be good to tell him that I have an exercise plan..... oh geez. I gotta run. Time to continue viewing cars for my DD. Ugh.

sigh. Putting it off again.

Agent... this is probably your last chance to make a good impression on him in this area.
You know this is important to him. It may even be one of the top reasons why he walked out on you.
Why are you still sidestepping and avoiding doing something about this?
Is convincing yourself "it wont help", really a better choice for you, than committing to fix this major issue between you and your husband?

right now, through your own words, your husband is getting further and further away from you every day.
You have a chance to reverse this. Every day you have wasted, has made it more difficult to get his attention with this.

I suggested this to you on the 18th. Today is the 25th.
You have wasted an entire week on procrastinating and putting this off.
That's 7 days of your husband getting progressively further away from you, because you did nothing, in an area where you could have done something.

Are you going to make the tough decision today, to actually do something positive about it? Is a week long enough procrastination for you?
Or are you just going to let things decay?

- You know this is really important to him!! #1 item he was looking for! Do you disagree?

- It is in your power to DO something about it. Do you disagree?

presuming that you do not disagree with either of those statements, then the only question is, why arent you doing something about it? TODAY?
Why would you put off fixing something for your marriage any longer??