But where do we go from here, and why do I love him so much, I keep telling myself it didn't get physical, but hearing that someone else is his soulmate has really hurt! I would suggest the retro people to him, but I don't think he would go for it! Not sure how to move forward from here, and i told him that we could get past this, but am I just lieing to myself?
Limbo,
My H was writing love letters to another woman--someone he works with--saying much the same types of things. H doesn't know I ever found those letters, but he does know I know about the feelings he had for her.
I won't lie: it *has* been hard to let go of the hurt, pain and fear involved, but we've gotten there. This OW is just a symptom of your H's pain and MLC. It doesn't make it less hurtful, but it does help to keep it in perspective.
Go ahead and make the suggestion for him to talk to the Retrouvaille people--what can it hurt?
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
