MCC, By the way -- many women still think and say they want a divorce after they break it off with OM. Be the rock. There's an old saying in DB, "Don't belive anything they say and only half of what they do."
Look up the thread of Frank_D. When his wife gave up the OM, she was still gung-ho on divorce. Frank just rose the task of become the man he needed to be. That man eventually began to send signals that he was moving on, and his wife eventually realized that she was losing a great guy. --Theoden
Theoden, You always have such wonderful advice. In my sitch, the OM and my W broke off contact about a month ago. There were several conversations with her where she claimed to be fully invested in repairing our R. Just the other night, she mentioned that she had gone to a lawyer last week and still considered D to be the only solution at this point. She sees us getting through the holidays together and thats it.
Time is on my side. Must detach. Must not hear or believe the negative things she is saying. Must get it through my thick head that she needs time to get through the haze.
