Hill, you're right about the 7K, my brother! It's the usual dilemma: part of me wants to throw out there how disaterous a divorce is, especially to kids. The landscape of their family is altered forever, especially when they are at the ages they are 17, 15, and 9. They've known nothing but our family, but lately they've known a mother who's behavior is so erratic and emotional. Don't get me wrong, when I tried to pull my "disappearing act" in March 2006, that was devastaing to my kids as well, because I had always been the voice of sanity, and I totally came unglued, to the point of trying to check out forever. So, by no means was my W. the sole basket case. I was emotionally broken beyond belief, as many of you can relate to.
Matilda:I really do call weekly, email often, send stuff to them every other week, postcards, silly stuff: a boonie hat with their names in Arabic..., one of my backpacks with my son's name on it, the usual "Dad's in Iraq" stuff.........
CF: believe it or not, this was the only conversation in months that I mentioned my W. to any of our kids, and it's because my D17's note really caught me off guard. I spoke with her the other night, and all I talekd about was my R&R and taking them to FLA., so it was just a mis-step, not a way of life, althought W. fills the void by thinking it is.
I don't know how/if I should respond to her email (although I do want to send her CF's article from CNN, but I've been there with the articles, the books, it just irritates her.)
I find it funny that she feels that I am prying information from D15, which I never have. Not once ( Or S9, for that matter), but i DID use D17 for solace at the pinnacle of mydepression..totally wrong, and probably contriuted to her behavior. I'M the parernt, and I reversed roles in December 2005 until March 2006. I find it ironic that W. doesn't want me to ask them anything, and follows on by saying D15 won't tell her what we talk about..WHAT????
I've tried the casual emails, I've gone back at her for her friendship with her boss (I'm not letting it pass...because it does anger/confuse my kids)...and she portrays all of her decisions as being for the kids"
I've got to write anyway to tell her I'm buying airline tickets for the kids to come to FLA. I will probably offer to come home if she needs to have a pinched nerve in her neck operated on, after the kids come to FLA, but she'll be "stoic" and of course, refuse ANY assistance...I got it...you can do it on your own.
