and just when you thought things couldn't get any more absurd...
last week some time spouse mentioned to me that she would like SIL to take D8 to birthday party for OWs 5yr old. (5yr old had invited D during the week that spouse was off contemplating her decision and spending alot of time w/ OW)I told her I wasn't going to give her an answer right then...I didn't want to react but to act (actually I wanted to do both and it involved a shovel and...) Maybe I'm trying to avoid things and be non-confrontational, who knows?
in the interim we go on family trip, have good time, things are pretty quiet on the OW front, minimal contact but there IS some contact via email and phone. (shovel, where is my shovel?) Silly me, in my world the BD party thing has evaporated.
Get email from spouse yesterday saying "I would like to be able to plan on D going to BD party next week"...I calmly reply and ask if she can see from my perspective why I don't think it's the right thing to do and BTW where does it end. Do we then invite those kids to parties at our house? I think not...Spouse answers that Ds parties will be girl parties from now on anyway (OW has boys) and "I want her to go". Gee, I hadn't figured that out. YOU WANT HER TO GO? REALLY? I thought we were just discussing this to chap my ass or something...Ms "Empathy" goes on to say she understands how I feel but that doesn't make it wrong for D to go to party. (So true! the fact that you F'd the mother of the kid makes it wrong! Can't overstate the obvious) Then I get this:
She likes the boys. She has an invitation and she has an expressed a desire to go. I feel that it would be completely harmless. I also feel in light of the way things have changed that I am trying as much as possible to NORMALIZE RELATIONS
NORMALIZE? Some words just slap you don't they? NORMALIZE????WTF does that mean? I have not found it within myself to respond to that word yet.
I have a shovel and I'm not afraid to use it. Stubby
