on the painting. Lowes has $5 cans of sample paints if your stuck between two or 3 colors. Also, depending on the lighting of your room, colors can look totally different. we did a very light tan/maybe champagne color that ended up looking purple! looked absolutely horible with the burnt orange color on the other wall.
also, you could experiment with glaze. A gallon is like $25 buck or more I think, but you wouldn't need that much. It could be a faux like finish. I think I have a pic on myspace of what I did, but maybe I'll email it to you. I used the edging tool, it's a flat painting thing that's about as big as your hand and you use it on the edges of the ceiling or wherever and I ended up using it on the whole wall and going back and forth with it in a half circular motion and I think it turned out pretty cool.
On the house. Definitely get more than 1 market analysis.. preferrably 3. If your upfront with the realtor they will probably be happy to get one for you, within a week or 2. Then you could also say that you may end up needing a condo in the future.
When I did an appraisal for our H/E loan, I had numbers 30K apart. But the realtors that I got the market analysis' from were pretty darn close to the middle of those.
I think the reason H is "okay" being in limbo are several. If he REALLY didn't want to be with you, I think he would have kicked you out or filed by now. So, he's scared, he still has feelings for you that confuse him, and he's going thru MLC/depression, and he's jealous just like OT said. He's scared because going thru the D, he knows, is going to change things tremendously.. he's scared of hurting you (why in the world did he take so long to drop the last bomb on you).. he's still fricken confused, especially since we all know he assumed he'd be happier after "breaking up" with you (since your the reason he's miserable like you said...cracks me up too) and it's not happening the way he imagined. I believe his pity party was due to some guilt. I'm not sure though, just my opinion. I'm curious. do you have any desire at all to invite him out sometime in the future? just on a whim?
and of course, just continue being you as you are doing, and that was perfect to quickly acknowledge his pity party and then move on as you did.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
