2940... Well I discovered recently that my H was in contact with OW via email 7 months after he returned home (still couldn't say he loved me but he told her he would always love her)...he also initiated the contact...he also wanted to stay in contact as friends because he felt he could talk to her about things easier then me... Fortunately OW had moved on and was living with an OM...she was happy...of course my H said he was happy for her and was working on things with me...she said also that she "always knew he would return" to his W...in her heart she knew...so this tells me that she wasn't looking at him as a permanent R/M as they had been discussing...despite him thinking I was so insecure it appears that she was also...about me!...and thus moved on to an OM before even telling H about it...which was way before he returned home... It hurt to see that he made this contact...it hurt to see him profess his love to her yet again...it hurt to see that he wanted to up the contact to phone also...which OW declined... From what I can tell there was no more contact after that...they both wished each other continued happiness...and sort of left it at that... I think that might have been H's replay...going back to see if she still loved him or if she had really moved on and what they had was in fact dead... He says now (we talked about this nearly a year after their last contact now)he wouldn't open an email from her (this is the only way she could contact him as he has no cell, no work number, no address away from home)...infact he says he thinks he might have blocked her once he realized that he did love me again...which he said to me some 4-5 months after this last contact with her... I know he didn't block her...but then his memory is really bad... I was concerned that he thought of her...compared me to her...but these are all my own insecurities...H says he doesn't think of her and tries very hard to dismiss thoughts of her...he has no romantic memories of her and feels that what happened was a huge mistake...he feels that had he realized the depths of his depression back then he wouldn't have gotten involved with her but would have sought help for his real issues...which he tried to mask with the A (bandaid!) So like you things continue to improve...it is good if OW moves out of state...I would think your H touched bases with her as a sort of replay like mine did...just to see if they still "have it" in the eyes of the OW...an ego thing...and also could be to make sure they are okay to relieve some of their guilt... I am glad things are going well for you...and in time you and H might be able to discuss some of these things so that you can have final closure... thanks for letting us know your doing well...in R/M and business...
