hi hope, thank you so much for posting and reading my thread. I should change it to "Crazy Person", huh? Did your wife end the contact with OM by herself? Did he still try to contact her like my husband does? I am sorry you felt violated when your wife came on here. I agree, sometimes all we are doing is trying to save our marriage, but there are some thoughts they don't need to read. Glad you are back. Hope to see more of you.
Unfortunately, I think ending the A was more a decision on the part of the OM. I believe it was somewhat a joint decision, but his W had found out about what was happening and he was concerned that he would lose his children. He had moved out a month prior and moved back in with his W when he and my W broke contact. Also unfortunately, I think if anyone has been pursuing, it was my W. The OM's W had forwarded me a text message from my W to her H asking to see him a couple of weeks after the no contact discussion. I don't think there has been any other contact since then, but how can I be sure? Also unfortunately for me, my W really fell for this guy. Not sure if the feelings were reciprocated, but I think it will take a while for her to get past these feelings for him.
As far as my feeling violated by my W looking at my postings...
I actually encouraged it in the beginning. I challenged her a bit to see if she could find my posts out of all the others. There are so many on here that are so similar. She cheated a bit and looked at my history on the computer, but I think it was actually therapeutic at first. She was able to go back and see how I felt following certain things that she did and I think it made her realize how crappy some of her actions were. At this point though, I think it would be better to keep my posts private.
