Lets try thing again!!!!

[saffie]

She isn't his soul mate and YOU know that. The idea of someone from the past is great. They take you back to when you felt young and everything still seemed so hopeful for the future. It's a romantic notion - not in touch with reality at all. I had a couple of old flames contact me through Friends Reunited and I have to say to begin with it was nice chatting to them but they were so needy and obviously had unfinished business from years back. Both were in 'good M's. I don't expect their wives knew about the contact though and after we had got through the 'and what have you been doing up until now?' phase I backed off as they seemed to be wanting to go in a direction I felt uncomfortable with. I can see if one was needy though it would be quite flattering.

My sister did get involved with someone that way and it bust up her M. She is very niaeve though and she did have an awful H. But even so she has realised that it was stupid and the guy that contacted her was a complete waste of space. It was only because she is so 'innocent' and believes what people tell her that it went as far as it did. A 'normal' person would have realised quite quickly that there was something strange going on.

For whatever reason, your H is casting around to try and fill a void. Identifying that void is the biggest thing. Who made first contact - him or her? I hate Friends reunited and sites like them. They have a lot of pain to answer for.

saffie