Well, I hope you had a good time with the kids in Spain and caught some sun. We had a Swedish 0-10C range here, but not much rain, so not too bad.
Wife and I had another talk today, this time after she received a note from the court and was upset. She called me a creep, said I was not a man, again, after which I pulled her into the living room and we really talked. It seems she wants to move out now, for sure, as I am “a failed project”, but she wants to minimize the impact on the kids (by keeping the house, for example).
She said I am so unlike other men (I didn’t understand, or even notice, the remark, for example, made by a guy friend of ours, asking whether I had come in under the ‘shame time’ of four hours in the marathon. I didn’t care and don’t want to compete with other men that way), that she can’t respect me as a result. That I haven’t done sports with our son (I run, but that is it for sport), and am just 'not a regular guy', a 'real man'. I felt insulted by this all, though it is true, but said nothing.
I said we should work on resolving any issues between she and I, as we would have to work on the kids for some years still, that this was maybe the most important thing of all. That the minimum thing we should do is come up with a concrete plan of what to tell the kids, getting her an apartment, Swedish citizenship so she can’t be deported, a job, etc.
So we still appear to be on the road to separation at least. I will continue the divorce proceedings. Things will be cleaner that way.
How about you? How close are you to getting a final decree?
Luke
Ps. Off to Boston tomorrow, and my parents, so I will be offline for a good week.
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
