The Course of an Affair

[Dr LOve]

So Larry,
You wrote the "A FABLE FOR LEFT BEHIND SPOUSES ENDURING AFFAIRS"

Now I remember you.
Do you want to play a game?? I find it interesting to see how my W reacted when I did not do what she expected me to do. It seems like your W thinks she knows you all too well. You did well when she wanted to start an argument when you humbled yourself and apologized. She was waiting all night. She was thinking over and over what she was going to say to you when you met again. She was building up all this anger to justify her actions. Then the moment came. You two were standing in the street in Dodge City. (Queue music from Clint Eastwood movie) the tumble weed rolls by. She is all tense and ready to reach for her gun. Then you just walk up to her smile apologize and walk away.
In her mind its “WTF is he doing? Get back here. I did not get any sleep last night planning this shoot out and all you do is apologizing?"

It is a fun game. If she is a little late showing up some where. Let it go. Maybe say something like. Didn’t you say you were going to be here by XXXX? I was getting worried. Everything ok?
It really screws with them. And it puts you in a better mood then saying” YOU ARE ALWAYS LATE WHAT THE F*CK YOU CAN"T LEAVE THE OM TO GET HERE ON TIME?”
I found some interesting things out about a wife. When ever there is a conflict. I no longer say things like “you said bla bla bla” Now I say “Sorry I miss understood you”
If I take the blame for most of the little B.S that happens it defuses a lot. Now you need to be careful. You have to remember you know who is really to blame. You don’t want to start down the “Why do I always F*ck up road” because you are not. You are above all that. You are so good you can take the blame of someone else’s doing and still have a good day.

You are doing good Larry. If I am still going to Vegas in Feb maybe we could meet and have a beer somewhere when I am down your way.

Husband