Fired b/c of an Affair? Redeemed Career Possible?

[saffie]

I just went and read your blogg. It wasn't quite up to date - it ended on 18th Oct, but much of what you say I can relate to. It tore at my heart strings.

Please know that it can get better. That all those things you talk about are natural and you are brave and honest in stating how things are.

Also know that there is not always a right and a wrong. My H and I are quite competitive with one another and this is one of the things, (the right and wrong issue), that we have had to get our heads around. People are justified to have differences of opinion - it doesn't make one right and the other wrong. Sometimes both are equally right or wrong. If we all thought the same what a boring world this would be.

We change all the time and evolve. My H always thought that I didn't think too much of him pre his A whereas like you, I talked with ease and about my respect and love for him to other people. He just didn't hear me do that and if I did say those same things to him he didn't hear them. In fact he was so high up on a pedestal I couldn't reach him it seems - until he revealed his A and the pedestal crumbled.

I guess we tend to kick the person in life who is closest to us and who we have the most familiarity with. I am lucky that my H now realises this and whilst I try hard to no longer vent to him or snipe at him when I am stressed, ( I fail badly at this), he now tries to remember when I do falter that it is because I love him that I am able to release my frustrations to him and let him see inside me.

You take care

saffie