Hey HSS, Just wanted to buzz by and let you know that I am also married to my high school sweetheart. It is very difficult to see them making obvious mistakes. It is hard to know if it is a pattern or a sickness, so by all means get thee to your C right away. If you have the funds, I hear that the phone counselors on this site are also very knowledgable and insightful. I am also sorry for your kids. They are at a crucial age but I guess it is rotten at any age and you have already been through the ringer a few times. Seems tough to hear unsolicited advice from others so maybe it is best to show PMA and reserve the rants and vents to only a select few trusted pro marriage people. Of course you can't flip a switch. My parents have been divorced more years now than they were married and my mom still calls him her husband. She never says exhusband. They still love each other after all these years! I do meet less and less people actually married to their prom dates, seems rare in my circle. People think it is so charming and romantic. That is what makes our sitches even more tragic. BUT there is an afterlife to all this separation. I am happier the way things have turned out but I do have resentment and anger and I have to walk on eggshells all the time. Just as BRUCE said, we all have become better people thanks to DR. I know I have.
You mentioned sometimes things got unbearable. At those times I drove, went to the library, bought gossip magazines, went on the elliptical, watched one safe movie over and over (Something's Gotta Give), got addicted to a new TV show (Gilmore Girls), went out to dinner, took up yoga, unfortunatley took up wine tasting-hee hee, bought Serious Skin Care on QVC, oh yeah, became Super Mom!!! and thank goodness found this forum.
Notice none of these things have anything to do with the H? They are just about decompressing.
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Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
