She wrote back and told me that “I shouldn’t put the kids in the role of my support”
It IS hard enough on the kids. What part of this will ever get easier for them?
I know I am not responding to your question re. how you should respond to your wife. Instead I'm interested in how you are keeping in contact with your children. (I know you have limited contact with D in Utah). I agree that they shouldn't be your only support, but you must show them you support them and love them no matter what happens with your marriage! I know you have the trip planned in the spring. I know phone calls are sporadic. What else? Do you keep in contact via email? Do you send snail mail letters? Do you know how they are doing in school? I have a D17 so I know how difficult relationships can be even when life at home is good!
Have you seen the book about 5 Love Languages for Teenagers? I bet there are other books out there that would help us.
I am probably way off track as to what is on your mind, but this is where my mind is right now.
