You are right. Your H is missing so much. Mine too. I know they love their kids, but sometimes I wonder if all this is what they are running from anyway. My H seems pretty content to not have to take any responsibility. The cute little fun stuff is small change to sacrifice next to the work required to be there full time.
We are seeing through our perspective, not theirs. We could not/would not be where they are, which is why we are not.
Me29 H33 D9 months S2 S9(previous R) Sep 8-19-07 I file 11-5-07 H home (Retro) 2-15-08 "Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9