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[Trixi]

Do you really think that your 3 months of separation have been a "good thing" for your marriage?
I would classify it as something that "isnt working", myself.
What has worked, in my perspective, was when you spent more time together, not less.

I didn't want this separation.

When he "came back" and said that *we* should date, was AFTER we had NOT seen each other. And now that we have been seeing each other fairly consistently, as time has marched on, the frequency and dare I say "enjoyment" has been diminishing; to the point that he is again announcing his intentions to date and that he sees divorce in our future (more so than in the past.)

If you tell him,and also show him that you are doing it when you say you will.. that will give him pause enough to wonder, "will she actually stick to it this time?", and probably wait and see if you do. (rather than go on more dates)

A month of him dating other people, could do serious harm to your marriage.

He is totally crystal clear that he wants to date others. That he MUST date others, really.
And, yes, it could do serious harm. He does not seem to care; well, obviously he doesn't care-- he left.

Yeah, it might be good to tell him that I have an exercise plan..... oh geez. I gotta run. Time to continue viewing cars for my DD. Ugh.