FLTC Honestly your plate is full now. Forcing issues with W 7K miles away is not good tatics. What you say is correct it is her choice and one cannot revisit history or why she got to that point. (legit or not)
If I would respond I would state my position on divorce it's after effects on the kids and little else. My 2cents.
A good divorce is one that is busted.
"All I want is a weeks pay for a day's work" Steve Martin