Oh Lis, you are so funny!!! Beloved made sure he told everyone every single one of my sins towards him. He sounded like a high school girl so caught up in the friggin drama. Now he avoids all of those people like the plague!
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
Because he is drowing in his own Shitz right now A......he's almost fully submersed and he is trying to take you with him. If he cannot make you feel like [censored] all the time.......he will tell your friends, family, long lost friends....hell, he's even telling strangers I am sure! Anyone to validate is childish behavior!!!
This is actually almost the first time I have been going to witness a train wreck....Oh yea A.......he's on overdrive!
Step away and stay away!!!
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
Oh,Lissie, I know. I read Jeanete's post on Wantlove thread, and her husband walked at almost exactly the same time mine did. I understand her heart-ache.
Mine is STILL spewing: I just feel like I can't take any more bile. ENOUGH. So he starts to involve people from the dim and distant past to try and sucker me in. So I either have to explain teh whole sorry sitch to her, or just say, sorry, but I really don't want to discuss it - I think the latter is better. If she chooses to believe h it is fine with me.
Thanks for the posts and support - When you deal with this alone, it seems so surreal. You lose sight of what is normal.
Angelica,
When I read this I thought "Yes, that's exactly how I feel!"
You know, while I was reading over your latest thread I had a thought pop into my mind that they seem sometimes to get so much worse right before a real breakthrough. Of course, we all know there are NO guarantees, but it was a thought and I thought I'd share.
You, my dear, have also ridden on the crazy train, as I have, and I know how very trying it all is. I feel for your sons, also, as I know how this has changed my children for good. I think when the kids are older it affects them in ways the younger ones aren't, because they are older and know too much of just how horrible their parent has become. We can't shelter them the way you can try to a younger child from some of the more carnal knowledge of what the parent is involved in.
Anyway, you are an incredibly strong woman and you will survive this too. I'm glad to see you have gone dark on him. That is the best for you.
Hugs, Sun
"Tell me what you plan to do with your one wild and precious life." Mary Oliver
Dear Sun, I just read your thread, and will come over and visit soon!
I just decided that I had taken enough abuse, and that I didn't want any more. The thought of not being abused again is wonderful. I shred the nasty postcards gleefully! I simply do not trust the man in any way shape or form right now, or in the forseeable future unless he has a lobotomy.
But trying to get at me through others???
Thanks Mickey I nearly was suckered in though - I realised that 'friend from the past''s call while I was unable to take it was providential. If I had been at home I probably would have talked to her. Now I have decided to suggest that she calls my son (her Godson], but that I really don't want to talk about it, thank you.
After all she has had a couple of years to find out how I am. As an emissary (?) of h I am not very keen on getting involved with her. I suspect she has undertaken to pass on some stupid message!!
