The thing is, it doesnt matter what he told his EX-wife. there is no mandate that he tell her the truth. there is no mandate that she tell Amy the truth. There are a whole host of reasons that he may have chosen to lie to his ex-wife about why Amy would come to see him.
The most important thing, is that he actually asked Amy, directly, if she would come see him.
he's in a way nastier situation than regular hospital, in some ways. He needs an anchor to the outside. My opinion, is that it is even more important that she go see him, since he asked.
If he did NOT ask, then I would say the opposite. I would in no way suggest just turning up there, given his mental state, otherwise. In contrast, if he was in a physical accident, "just turning up" once, might be warranted.
Yes, odds are, something he will say to her at that time, will hurt her. whether deliberate, or unintended.
Thing is though... for long term, "i care about you as a person, I care about having you healthy and well" purposes... I think it is still important for Amy to go see him as he requested.
Last edited by Dom R; 10/24/0708:24 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
