Hey, Jar, the other thing I started thinking about is -- are you working out, going to the gym? Not only do I think if you were pushing yourself physically would that help w/ your stress levels, but are you LOOKIN' GOOD, Man?

I know that all of a sudden during the D sitch, I realized how very sexy I still found my H and was pissed I may lose him after this realization. I was truly kicking myself!!

Unfortunately, after years of marriage, your spouse sometimes is taken for granted. H was "just my husband." He was there 24/7, etc. Obviously, this is not good/right thinking, but it happens.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10