Let's say you finally decided you were done with H -- just couldn't do it anymore and you were really ready to move on. Not physically attracted to him anymore because of how he has treated you over the past few years. He hasn't changed and is still being the same jerk that you walked away from. You've decided to go forward with D and it is on the way.
Then, during the D process you start noticing changes -- the kind of changes you had always hoped he could make. At first, you didn't buy them, but as the months rolled on and the changes continued, you started to think, "Maybe, just maybe..." yet still had your doubts. At the same time, he isn't pressuring you and is giving you all the space you need, is kind to you when the two of you interact, etc.
Do you think you would become attracted to him again and open up to another possible R with him again, or do you think that too much damage has been done and that you just need to move on, despite his obvious changes? If you did begin having a change of heart, how long do you think you would need to see those changes before you believed you could have a good, healthy M with him?
