GD, what would have gotten you to wake up way back when you were WAW's H?
Her standing her ground, even in the face of me pushing a D through. In fact, that's largely what DID wake me up. I realized that I was facilitating the exact opposite of what I really wanted, and that my hopes/plans that she would get spooked into coming back were backfiring. I was like, "Crap! Now what do I do?" Sadly, at this point (when I started atoning for my past and recent mistakes) it was too late. W had made up her mind. I had sealed the coffin with the final nail.
WAW just needs to stay strong and "act as if" through this next phase, and make sure she doesn't let him come back too easily. He needs to realize that a serious, 110% effort on his part to change his controlling behaviors and open up more emotionally needs to occur before WAW will accept him back.
That's my opinion, at least. She needs to play hardball so he won't slide back into old habits and behaviors if let back in too easily.
