Welcome, sorry you have to be here but you've come to the right place.
Perhaps you can share some more background so the fine folks here can offer some more insight.
From what I see in your post, it appears he is not going anywhere fast. That is good. He has the OW, that is bad.
Based upon what you have written, it appears you know how to act. I am probably not telling you anything you don't know but...you want to NOT be reactive. You are right, you shouldn't have sent that email back. Unless you are spelling out boundries and your line(s) in the sand, try to avoid emails like that.
Yes it is hard, it sucks. Try to be peaceful, kind, happy. Try to not seem upset by his leaving. Don't ask about his night when he returns. Try to get a mental picture of someone he would want to come home to. Try to radiate that. Sounds sort of silly, but they say, you gotta see it to be it.
If you had been trying the last 3 times, why do think it didn't work the last 3 times? What could you do differently? If you have read the book(s), what are your 180s? It is GREAT that you are feeling good and valueing yourself again. Since you are a short timer, maybe that is all you need is to build yourself up and do a few 180s and then watch and wait.
Please post more of your story. Best of luck to you.
Me 44 She 46 S13 D9 M18 T23 3 years DB'ing Successfully busted
