I feel for you! In-laws...WAW runs and hides. At least yours don't live 5 minutes away and drop by unexpectedly! If my H wasn't hiding up his mothers skirt maybe we would have had a better chance at succeeding in this M thing. I think the doc forgot to cut to cord or something.
I agreee with the others...give it your best this weekend. Even if listening to FIL is like nails on a chalk board tourture. Maybe W will see your efforts.
Keep moving along slow and steady. either way your next steps with the new fixer house with certainly get some kind of reaction...better than the no reaction at all pattern.
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.
I feel for you! In-laws...WAW runs and hides. At least yours don't live 5 minutes away and drop by unexpectedly! If my H wasn't hiding up his mothers skirt maybe we would have had a better chance at succeeding in this M thing. I think the doc forgot to cut to cord or something.
I agreee with the others...give it your best this weekend. Even if listening to FIL is like nails on a chalk board tourture. Maybe W will see your efforts.
Keep moving along slow and steady. either way your next steps with the new fixer house with certainly get some kind of reaction...better than the no reaction at all pattern.
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.
WAW, that's a record! I have it the submit button a few times myself but not 4! Funny.
Puddle, about 1/2 of what I (we) used to have?
C
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
Oh yeah, sorry. Special for you today: half-price therapy, and considering my credentials, half of nothing is nothing.
You may have half as much outside stuff, but you've easily got more than twice as much going for you inside these days, CVA, and you can't buy that (or lose it in a D).
Two things have transpired today. 1. I think I have found the perfect casa. Just big enough, down the road from current house and not tooooo expensive.
2. W called to ask me if I had called about the heating. Just cold enough past couple of nights for her perfect little world to need some heat (can always tell when its too cold in our house!, couldnt resist! I had already called but as I have told Nomo, frustrating part about those calls is she ALWAYS starts the convo with "I'm just calling because..., not Hi, whatever, never says my name, nada. (That stuff is just downright delibrately malicious) SO what changed is Daddy in law is not coming, MIL is. Typical. He's too busy to come all the way down. I suspect it may be they are having problems too for the 100th time. So NO Fishin talk, just another weekend of two women (this time MIL not so great to look at in a bathing suit :() not talking and ignoring me.
Chin up, smile and act as if, no matter what.
Ya know, as I keep writing all I can think is "how stupid am I"? 18 yrs of no reall genuine discussions. Great intuition about most everything in life, just not this one.
C
Puddle, how much?
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
1. I think I have found the perfect casa. Just big enough, down the road from current house and not tooooo expensive.
That's terrific news! Good for you. Timeline?
Originally Posted By: CVA
That stuff is just downright delibrately malicious)
Duck's back. What makes you say it's malicious instead of oblivious?
Originally Posted By: CVA
So NO Fishin talk, just another weekend of two women (this time MIL not so great to look at in a bathing suit :() not talking and ignoring me.
Well, you're probably relieved. I was curious to see how it would go with FIL, though. Enjoy the view!
Originally Posted By: CVA
Chin up, smile and act as if, no matter what.
Yep!
Originally Posted By: CVA
Ya know, as I keep writing all I can think is "how stupid am I"? 18 yrs of no reall genuine discussions. Great intuition about most everything in life, just not this one.
I know what you mean. But most of us don't examine our Rs that closely until there's a crisis, but then we learn. Everyone's intuition has a blind spot; maybe yours will change now.
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Puddle, how much?
I trust you just missed my response rather than you're having trouble with the math...?
Thanks Puddle. Going to walk thru the house tomorrow. If I like it, may move on it very quickly. Within 30 days total.
Malicious maybe too harsh, deliberate yes. Oblivious maybe. Probably a combo of the latter 2. You have to go out of your way to "not" say something to someone but it has been a pattern since we started. Again, probably blinded by the physical and overlooked a lot. Pretty sure that is what happened to the intuition. You women, you have all the power in those things you call bodies. More like vehicles of torture for guys like me.
I saw the post, forgot to say that was very kind of you. Just messin with you.
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
No fishing or BM talk. Lucky you. Sorry about the repeats on my last post. My work PC went crazy.
MIL-I am jealous that yours doesn't interact much. Can you help with mine.
I hope this house works out for you! I think it will be a theraputic and like you said, an investment. Being a financial person, who can agrue with that? Its like a new IRA right down the street.
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.