Wow, Chicki, that's pretty strict. I went to Catholic School for 11 years. Recently realized that I've used up all of my "extra masses" (every friday in school, then Sunday) and am now on the hot path
Seriously, though. I was painfully shy around folks for years, so never really dated anyone until I met my W. Looking back, there were opportunities, but I was clueless. I was, and still am, fine living through the rest of my life with only having had her as the woman in my life.
That said, the idea of dating is exciting and a bit scary at the same time. Kind of feels like HS again. Why can't it be like kindergarten? You just walk up to your heart's desire, hit them, and run. Then your co-workers/friends could sing songs about you, "Chicki and Jerrod, sittin' in a tree. . . "
Anyway, just letting you know you're not the only late bloomer out there.
CVA, my comment above sounds unintentionally harsh upon a second reading. Sorry about that.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
Consider that she may just be being kind, and really hoping that you DON'T talk with her about it. She might just feel guilty if she didn't extend herself out to you in that way. And it sounds to me like you told her about the situation (is that true?). If you did, of course it would be kind of her to make that offer. I strongly suggest you NOT go to her to talk about it. Show her that you are strong and are detaching from her, and don't NEED to talk with HER about it. Go to another relative, close friend, C, etc. Just not her! Come on, Heim -- you know that this is the smarter route to take on this situation.
And it sounds to me like you told her about the situation (is that true?).
Um, yeah. Why wouldn't I? This is a woman that she's known, and liked, for 16 years. I don't see how telling her about the impending death of my mawmaw invalidates her offering a shoulder to lean on for a bit. Plus, as a practical matter, she needs to know because I'll almost certainly go down and we need to discuss logistics around the girls.
Let's play what if. What if she's cracking the door a bit. Other than my outburst the weekend before last, I've backed off for 3 weeks (I know, not terribly long, but longer than normal). I believe I've mentioned that we didn't share our inner feelings for a while -- we kindof skimmed along on a surface level for the most part, and that sucked. Yeah, I know. DBing = back off; unless they're coming back/sniffing around. So, here's the horns of a dilemma. All advice says back off. My knowledge of my W says that she wouldn't offer unless she were sincere.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
It was just my opinion, brotha. You've gotta do what you think is the right thing to do. I didn't think it was bad that you told her, but just think it's a bad idea to talk with her about it (even if she did offer). But, like you said, you know your W (obviously better than all of us), and if you think talking with her about it will bring you closer to your goal(s), then go for it. Make sure you just don't digress into an R talk as a result of this talk about your Mawmaw (as you mentioned you were concerned about doing). I'd still like to hear from others on this subject, though.
H No prob, I was talking to Chicki about the "being vulnerable thing" if that is what you are referring to. For once, I took no offense!
C
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
What do you mean? What will get you closer to what?
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
