I hadn't thought about S having similar feelings as would a kidnap victim (in some ways) and yes, you are absolutely correct, he would have to identify with his dad.... that would be the only way he'd be able to begin to establish some sort of bond too... something that he really hasn't had and has only wanted most of his life.
Oh, I do focus on D. If fact, she has me worried abit, for I believe she is trying to fill the void all on her own.... my little over achiever (she really isn't that little, she just had another growth spurt and we now look eye to eye now...:-) ) is my center, who still gives me the greatest joy. I've been pushing her to get back into her own life, and spend more time with her friends, leaving me a bit of "alone" time, when I often think about S and how he is doing.
Since I didn't make the call to CPS, I won't hear of their findings, or whether they did have a concern with the situation there. S said "You almost got me in trouble by telling them I'm too young to drive!" in such angered tones it broke my heart. I'm sure Dick is using this to appear to be connecting with S, AND using it to turn S against me.... by making me out to be the bad guy, and taking away his driving privilages, instead of acknowledging the fact they are both breaking the law by allowing him to drive underage. Dick knows if S can't drive and have his independence, S may not want to hang around. So, if S gets caught, it will be all my fault....
I did talk to my attorney, she felt as though I was trying to control the situation, also, I don't have a right to interfere with Dick's parenting, and as long as S wants to live with his Dad, I don't have a leg to stand on.
Just once I'd like to feel as though I had some rights.... just once.
Anyway, I'm gonna take a nap before D comes home....
Take care of you, God Bless
Love,
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Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
