Rollar Coasters are no longer fun

[Dom R]

now that I've read more...
totally agree with what ediemarie said. just listen.

Also... go see him!

It will really mean something to him, that you came to see him.

I remember reading about someone, who went through just horrible, horrible things with her husband... things finallhy straightened out, or at least started pointing in the right direction, when he got himself in hospital (car crash), and she was the one who came to see him, not OW.

Make no mistake... this may not be "the magic bullet". Things will still be very difficult for you. But I'm confident that you going to see him, is the best thing for you to do.
if you have to take a vacation day, and pay for an extra night's hotel, to get to see him.. id' say it was worth it.

(usually the airlines are very flexible about changing flight dates for this type of thing; mixing personal trip with business trip.)