Knew it wouldn’t be long before I would be back here for help with my sitch. LOL isn’t that always the way?
You were are all right on the money here with my H just trying to control the situation. He was playing hardball over the weekend pushing for a formal separation agreement etc. Tonight was the night we were supposed to start the process of divvying our things up and now wants to talk about “US”.
So again, he is just being reactionary because I just acted “as-if” to his request for immediate formal separation and just validated that if that’s what he wanted I would agree to it. Help me out here. We are meeting tonight, we are both supposed to have itemized lists of what is most important to us etc. Should I still make a point of going ahead with this to show him that I will not be manipulated? At this point I am all for just getting the separation going to make him realize (not punish) that this is serious, game over the end unless he gets his act together and goes to MC & IC. I can’t make him…he has to go himself so I am not worrying about him anymore. Just worrying about myself and I need to get on with my life without his manipulating controlling ways.
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.
