If lwb's husband is stalking but OW is not interested that is completely different to if she is actively encouraging him. If she is encouraging him her H is going to be pretty pissed and also it means it is harder for lwb's H to get over her - which obviously lwb wants him to do as soon as possible.
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Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
