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[Dr LOve]

LWB,
if ya need to vent you got my E-mail

Husband

[JAK58]

Does she know that you are onto them still being in contact?
Im'e wondering if she finds out you still know if she will back off and be afraid you will contact her H.

[LuvMyHusband]

wow! Lwb. I wish I had your strength. You are amazing. I would probably have smashed him over the head with the book about marriages.

[saffie]

I think the 48hr rule would work well here - it gives then time to squirm.

I don't think that you will make things any worse by waiting to see what they do but it may well be better to wait. If you do speak to OW's H you need to have some sort of idea going into it what you want or might gain out of talking to him. Odds on it will probably blow everything sky high. That would mean that you will probably have no control over anything - are you in a position where you think that is acceptable. Think about Theo's Sitch.

What does your husband do? Is there any other reason he could be there? Could he have been looking for books on M's?

Saffie

[saffie]

Does anyone know the name of Donna......found's thread? I can't remember it.

saffie

[Ohio_Mark]

Do you think OW is actively participating in this or that your H is stalking her?

Saffie -

Good question, but does it really matter? He was there. She was there. And they were not expecting lwb to be there.

The real risk is if her husband thinks lwb is stalking him. And she is not.

I think the 48hr rule would work well here - it gives then time to squirm.

I was thinking the same thing. Imagine the tension OW will feel at home tonight.... wondering if he got a call from lwb.

[saffie]

I think it does make a difference Mark.

If lwb's husband is stalking but OW is not interested that is completely different to if she is actively encouraging him. If she is encouraging him her H is going to be pretty pissed and also it means it is harder for lwb's H to get over her - which obviously lwb wants him to do as soon as possible.

saffie

[LL44]

I think she is participating. The "I love you" note was left on H's car. Whether she is calling him (or accepting his calls), I don't know. I am not sure, but my gut says yes. OW's H has a pretty close watch on her, because they are 'working it out'. I am sure even if she isn't talking to him, she is getting a HUGE high out of him showing up where she is, I can pretty much guarantee that. She can have him right now.

Yes, calling OW's H would blow things sky high. Big time. I never thought how it would make me look, didn't realize that. I only know that I want him to know, for what reason, I am not sure. That is why I am waiting.

I wonder if she knows that I know about 1) the note and 2) today.

I am reeling here, keeping busy cleaning house. I need a drink. Going to go for a run in a minute. I miss D3 and want to pick her up, but just can't today. Just can't.

[LuvMyHusband]

I'm so sorry Lwb. I know exactly how you feel. I'm going to get on the tread mill too and then clean my house. Boy, our houses sure do get cleaned alot.

[LL44]

saffie, H works for Homeland Security, off on T, W, and Thursdays. This is also something OW's H doesn't know. He felt 'safer' knowing my H was working M-F, which he was for a bit there.

I can guarantee you my H thinks I am stalking him. I'd bet my paycheck. He already thinks I snoop. I wasn't stalking him, and I know the truth. I don't care what he thinks right now. Talk about squirming, oh man, he was squirming big time when I just came and sat next to him. He didn't see me coming.

morgan said I should have gone in the room and sat down with OW. I am laughing thinking of her, the surprise. I would have interupted story time though, and made a fool of myself in the long run. But the thought keeps me smiling.

saffie, H would never look at marriage books. Ever. He was looking at home improvement books, he and his siblings are fixing up his dad's house to sell.

I never got my book, darnit.