22 years and no communication

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about the C, pick a secular MC then, it's better than no C at all, chances are he won't find one himself.
As far as how badly it went on your last C session, chances are the C was no good if nothing good came out of it. Even though C is not a silver bullet, a good C makes a big difference, if you dont' feel you've done progress nor feel any better after you leave the office then it means you need another C.

Keep reading other posts, you will learn tons here. The first time I posted back in 2005 no one responded (I was in another forum) but I stuck around and boy am I glad I ever did, there are wonderful people here with lots of wisdom. Come here to vent and defuse when you feel it woudn't be productive to do so with your H.

I also suggest you read "the proper care and feeding of husbands" which taughts me lots and lots. Also, the "men are from mars women are from venus" book teaches you about the different styles of communication men and women have. I've been married 10yrs and was totally ignorant of many things and did damage to my M without intending to.