Everybody's Caught in a Spin...

[RedHeadWife]

Thanks, things are really going well.

I wouldn't ask if she's got someone else either. Yeah, W does need to know that finally *exposing* this to your children is going to be really bad and, once it's done, it can't be taken back.

Maybe you can either draft an email & work on it for awhile or, if you think you guys could do this, sit down and tell her that you would like to try counseling together and maybe try to work things out in your M. If you have been going like this for the past 6 yrs (and I totally understand that -- time flies and when I look back on my M, I realize that we weren't living much of an M for a long time either), maybe you could discuss trying to actually put an effort into the M and making it better instead of just throwing in the towel.