My sense is that the kids will be devastated by this - not that they are completely in the dark already. D and S have both been questioning W off and on about "Why do you leave Dad out of much of what we do?" Both of them are very bright, very intuitive - and very sensitive.
I am so thankful that there is not a "third party" waiting in the wings on my side to complicate things. My IC and I discussed this at length - and IC thought it was very aware and positive on my part that I do not want to expose the kids to a cycle of GFs. W's best friend has done exactly this since her divorce a few years back with a new BF every few months - and I know it has affected the friend's D in a negative way.
Now does W have "someone waiting in the wings?" I don't know and I am not going to ask. Given W's history and her parents' history, it would not surprise me in the least - but I strongly suspect that she does not.
BTW RHW - I have been following your thread over on SSM. I get the sense that your communication with H has been going well since his redeployment. Hope he (and everyone else over in the Mideast) does their best to keep out of harm's way and get back here safely when the time is right.
Me 52, STBEX 52 D 17, S 12 M 20 years Em Sep since 2002, Phys Sep Sept 2009
Both of them are very bright, very intuitive - and very sensitive.
