Thanks for all the great feedback, you have all given me things to think about.
H and I had a long talk on Sunday, we spent the afternoon at the beach and we talked at length about sex. He stood firm on his point of veiw that he is "just not that interested anymore". But he did say "who knows, maybe I'll feel different tomorrow".
Yes, I do think that he has been living in pain and rejection for so long that a shift in my attitude is throwing him for a loop. I guess it will take time.
One thing we discovered on Sunday was that niether of us likes the way each other kisses. Not the bedroom kind, the quick ones, going the store, see you later kind. We got to talking about it and then showing each other what we liked and how we liked it. We laughed a lot. We have been practicing for the last 2 days now and I have had more butterflies in my stomach (the good ones) than in the last 5 years. We talked a lot about touching too and have been working on that as well. Sunday night was a hit!
You all gave me so much information I really want to take the time and re read your posts to fully get the messages.
