I have read through your posts and think you are expressing what my H is feeling. He has a lot of anger inside too. And the anger is very hard for him to contol. It absolutly stems from 10 years of us living in a SSM. He is the HD, me the LD. But now I am putting forth an effort to work on increasing frequency.
When your W realized how important this was for you and was willing to give more did she actually say "anytime, anywhere"? Have you taken her up on the offer? I wish I could tell my H the same thing, but I am worried that I may not be able to live up to it.
You said even though you know that "anytime, anywhere" is available to you, you catch yourself reverting back to being angry because it has become a habit. I think my H is like that, it's just become a habit for him.
I have increased the frequency but now he is telling me he is just not interested anymore and once a week is fine with him. (No enthusiasm). He says he learned to control his desire and is proving to me that he is not a neanderthal that only wants sex.
I am confussed now. I started working on what I thought he wanted and now he says it's not really what he wants. Women's intuition tells me he is not being honest with me. Did you ever feel this way? It's like he just gave up.
Did you express the feelings you've shared here with W? I wish my H would express his feeling to me about this. But it's almost like he doesn't have any anymore.
You express yourself so well here and have given great advice to others. I was wondering if you had any insight to helping me understand my H better.
